Sunday, 20 February 2011
Love , Dating & Marriage according to Islam
It is ordered by Allah in al Qur'an -
''Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what they do. '' ( Al Qur'an 24:30 )
And the same thing said for women in 24:31 in addition of -
''And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husband’s sons, their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islâm), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allâh to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.'' ( Al Qur'an 24:31 )
so where its said to lower the gaze, you cant think about a date and a date understood as today's appointment between a girl and a boy is far away and excluded. and its farj (must be done ) for our sisters to make cover themselves properly .
Allah's apostle said once , '' have a look the woman before marrying her . because its for whole life .
"so that means Islam gives permission to meet a girl only when your intention is marriage. Allah's apostle said to have a look before marrying that is understood as you may see the girl before marriage but surely not in a very indecent way. you may talk to the girl if u want where a third person should be present who will assure sincerity and decency in meeting as Allah's messenger said this as well , '' no man is alone with a woman but the Shaytaan is the third one present. ''
Its forbidden in Islam to love someone intentionally out of mariage or have a boyfriend or girlfriend . but if you like someone or choose someone for marriage or fall in love with someone accendently or by chance or unconsciously, then you should follow islamic marriage rules. if you wanna know his or her opinion,u shouldnt do that directly by urself. its recommended to do so by a third person so that you may avoid any unexpected or embarrassing situation. and of course let your parents know the matter, they will take care of it and do the rest.
now in case of failure of marriage for any reason, you should try to forget him / her n not keeping contact with the person . and belive that whatever Allah did, its for good. be patient and depend on Allah. inshallah you will find the right one for yourself by the grace of Allah. whatever happens, we should follow Islamic rules and believe that its for our good.
Islam gives the best solutions for us . Islam is best and beautiful !! Alhamdulillah . oh Allah ! guide us rightly, make us firm & steady , pardon us & bless us abundantly .